Tag Archives: Perfectionism

Releasing Control

I must admit my fear of losing control causes me to strive and micromanage my time, activities, and even my emotions, at times. Honestly, it’s quite exhausting. So why do I still do it?
When I take an honest look at this tendency, it exposes my simple lack of trust in God – in His ability to handle everything that comes my way. It’s not my ability that matters, but His. If I am fully trusting God, I am not relying on my own strength. I’m letting Him take the reins over my heart, life, and mind. Can you relate?
Proverbs 3:5-6 says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”
God calls us to trust Him and to not lean on our own strength. Then, when we acknowledge Him in all our ways, he makes our paths straight. Perhaps this concept seems easier when things are going well. But what about when things get tough?
But, slowly, I am moving toward letting go and trusting. It’s a journey, though, isn’t it, my friend? I’d sometimes like life to hurry up and my struggles go away. But part of the beauty of life is this tension we live in here on Earth until we go to our final home. God promises that we will have struggles on this side of heaven. So, I have a choice. I can let it be miserable, or I can let it be a beautiful unfolding – a beautiful unfolding of events and emotions. I can choose to accept and embrace the good, the bad, and the ugly. Through acceptance, I am learning to trust God more fully and embrace the ups and downs of life more willingly. In regards to my mental health, I am trusting His process of healing instead of trying to figure it out on my own. How freeing! To let go of the striving and rest in His love. Someone once told me rest is trust – I believe that is true because you can rest when you are trusting Someone bigger than yourself to take care of you.
Today, I choose trust over worry and control. Today, I chose Jesus rather than myself. Today, I am ready and willing to trust.
Copyright 2020 Marie Lorah

Progress, Not Perfection

Are you seeking progress or perfection in your life? For me, I was humbled by our loving Father that I was striving for perfection recently.

This week I had a colossal meltdown, one of those public, overwhelming volcano of emotions. I felt overcome with shame and more anxiety than I had in a long time. “Here we go again,” I thought. “I fell apart, yet again. I am a failure because of these struggles. I’m never going to get better.” Crazy how easily we can fall into these lies and automatic negative reactions, yet we do as fragile human beings. 

I reached out to a friend, and we did dinner. She reminded me there was no shame in having a tough time and reaching out. I spoke with another friend the following day, who totally re-framed what happened – she said that instead of looking at this meltdown as a failure, look at it as progress, as I had not had a meltdown like this in a while. Having that connection with another person helped me see the truth about my situation and break me free from the shame and condemnation – which is NOT from God.

As I began journaling and talking to God about what happened, I felt He reminded me life is about progress, not perfection. And the truth is, I did make progress. As frail human beings, we can tend to go straight to the negative when processing things. We can think things will never change and believe we are failures. But what is God’s truth? How does He see us in the middle of our messes? Really. Ask yourself. How does God see you in your worst moment? Friend, I can tell you He isn’t look away in disgrace; He is looking toward you with compassion, wanting you to come to Him. 

So today, meditate on what is good. Meditate on how well you are doing – because there are things you are doing well, and things you are still learning. Look for progress, not perfection. Stand tall, confident in God’s love for you through it all.

Copyright 2018 Marie Lorah

Why You Don’t Have to be Perfect – Letting Go of Perfectionist Expectations

Recently, I had to look at why I felt so defeated as I looked at all the goals, plans, and dreams I have for my life. I realized I felt this way because of an expectation for it to unfold perfectly. Perfectly, really? In this imperfect world? Yet, there was the truth of the bondage I was walking in and had to face – and am still walking out.

Life isn’t meant to unfold perfectly, as much as we’d like it to. God is not asking for perfection – He’s asking for faithfulness. We don’t have to be perfect because Jesus was perfect! There’s grace and space for mistakes. There’s room for learning in the Kingdom of God. We never graduate to perfection on this side of heaven. We need Jesus – deeply, each and every day. Our hearts need to to be continually filled with and reminded of His love. And we can thank Him for His sacrifice of His Son for our sins and imperfect lives.

Steward what He’s giving you, and make small bold steps toward what you believe He is calling you to – with the grace and space for mistakes.

Lord, I lay down my unrealistic expectations for my life to unfold perfectly. It’s really when I let go and let You be God, that I find rest, hope, and vision for my future. Free me from perfectionism as I fling myself into Your loving arms. In Jesus name, Amen.

Do you struggle with perfectionism? How has that influenced your walk with God? What have you learned from Him and how has He set you free in this area?