Tag Archives: Acceptance

Already Accepted

How often to truly feel accepted by God? Do you always sense His love and acceptance? For me, this is an area I have been working on with the Lord, and it has been quite a journey.

In the past, I would beat myself up after making a mistake or if I was struggling. I only felt acceptable if I was doing “well” in my eyes. Yet, I was looking through my lens, not the lens of my Creator and how He felt about me. Self-hatred enveloped me. Yet again, this was not God’s desire for me. I am His child, His creation, and what He made was “very good” (Genesis 1:31). Notice that very? When God created everything else on Earth, He said that it was good. When it comes to His children, God put an explanation point by saying that is was “very good.” Take that in for a moment. When God made you, it was very good. He knew we would fall due to our sin in the Garden, yet He still said we were made very good.

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14

Do you know “full well” that His works are wonderful, and that WE are one of those works? Ephesians 1:6 says we are “accepted in the beloved” (KJV). I want to marinate in these truths so much that I never have any doubt who I am and whose I am. I am fully accepted in God, right where I am at.

So whatever struggle you are experiencing, whether with sin, your mental health, your marriage, or parenting, know that you are already accepted today. God’s love for you is great, and as I’ve heard some say before, “Your picture is on His fridge!” Rest in His acceptance, dear one.

Copyright 2020 Marie Lorah

Grief During Covid-19

My heart has been grieving a lot during the pandemic lately. The first month, I really coped well and tapped into my creativity. I probably felt the best I felt in quite a while and was honestly shocked with how well I was thriving. The last few weeks however, I have become less motivated (see less blog posts?!) and hit some depths of depression I haven’t felt in a while. It seems strange to grieve my mental health, but I think that is what is happening. Grieving the loss of motivation, of creativity, of excitement and passion for life. Grieving the loss of connection and energy I get from being around friends and family – the “normalcy” of it all.

I’ve realized how much I crave structure and connection, and those aren’t bad things. I’ve seen some of my priorities shift as I’ve done some reflecting through this crisis, but I think it’s also a very valid feeling and desire to want “normal” back. The reality is, from what I undertand, it won’t be the same “normal” we are used to. People will be wearing masks and social distancing. Not everything is going to open up at once. The risk for illness will remain. Uncertainties still lie ahead. Life won’t be the same.

I wish I could say this will all get easier. And it may and will over time. But there’s also a need to accept where we are at, surrender to this process, and put our trust in the One who always stays the same. Let go of the timeline of how this will all play out and take it one day at a time. Be angry, be sad, allow yourself to feel, but do not give up. Sometimes, that’s all we can do.

May you embrace your grief during this time and find creative outlets to express it. God, I pray for your comfort, relief, and perspective over each person reading this blog today. Thank You that You are still on the throne and love your children very deeply. In Jesus name. Amen.

Copyright 2020 Marie Lorah

Having Compassion for Yourself During COVID-19

Having a hard time coping with the quarantine right now? If so, I get it. Yesterday, I ended up being hard on myself for struggling, and that spilled over into today a bit. I was beating myself up for areas of struggle I still have, in spite of the fact that I have made a lot of progress recently. Our tendency seems to always go to the negative, doesn’t it?

In fact, research shows that we are hard wired to go toward the negative. Kristen Neff, in her book “Self Compassion” discusses this tendency and for our need to be kind to ourselves when we are suffering. She explains the importance of supporting and loving yourself in difficult times as you would support and love a friend. Sound selfish? Actually, Scripture discusses that we are to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. And how can we love our neighbor if we don’t love ourselves? It first starts in receiving God’s love for ourselves, then we can love Him and others.

Are you feeling less productive during this time? Are you dealing with depression or anxiety right now? Be encouraged that’s it’s okay to feel this way. We are facing many new challenges in different ways right now. Personally, I am used to getting out of the house regularly to help ward off depression and anxiety. So, I have had to adapt and find new ways to cope. But, not every day is perfect – and that is okay. I am making myself a note to put in my office, “I give myself permission to be where I am.” I usually get myself into trouble when I start ruminating on thoughts about how I should be further along than I am. If you’re struggling right now with those feelings of “not enough” or “failure,” try to show yourself some grace and kindness. God is patient with you; so you can be patient with yourself too. I know, easier said then done. Here’s another way to look at it: how would you treat a friend that was struggling with something? Would you say sternly to try harder and suck it up, or would you show compassion and listen with kindness? I’m sure you would listen and love with compassion. We are all on a journey of learning to show this same kindness to ourselves.

We all have a relationship with one person we can’t get away from, and that is ourselves! So work on your self-talk today. Try to think of a bigger perspective of what’s going on right now. Tell yourself that you are doing the best you can and that you accept yourself just the way you are. After all, God accepts you just the way you are. But take heart, that He is not done with you and is going to complete the work He began in you! Good things are coming, friend. Reach out to God and ask Him for His help right now. He is with you, and He will help you! Receive His love and compassion for you, because you are DEEPLY LOVED.

Copyright 2020 Marie Lorah

Hello, New Year – A Little Late!

A New Year. A fresh start. A deep breath, exhaling all that is past and breathing in what is new. New beginnings. New life. A reset. Physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Hello, New Year. I welcome you. I welcome the goodness of God to chase me down in this New Year. I welcome healing. I welcome wholeness. I welcome the process – the joys, the hurts, the tears. I welcome God’s journey for me. And I choose to go all the way through with Jesus this year. Lord, have Your Way in all things. I promise to trust You, let You take me by the hand, and go all the way through with this journey in You!

Instead of being overwhelmed by New Year Resolutions, may you be overwhelmed by the love of God. You are accepted by God, just as you are now. May that acceptance draw you toward change, instead of forced, pressured goals. Let the Holy Spirit guide you. Let your instinct guide you. Instead of piling a whole list of goals on yourself, set one or two simple goals. Start slow, and let the change build and grow.

Happy New Year!

Marie

P.S. It’s been a hard year for me, mental health wise and otherwise. I moved home to live with my parents for extra support, and soon after, my father suddenly died in June. I am still grieving and recovering, yet I have found a newfound strength and stability since his passing. I look forward to using this new strength and stability to write and encourage others through my blog once again – I’m back!